December 06, 2012

I like the approach.


I read this article and found it pretty interesting, I like this approach.

Using IFS to Silence Your Inner Critic
Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) is a new form of psychotherapy developed by psychologist Richard Schwartz. IFS recognizes that our psyches are made up of many different parts, sometimes called subpersonalities. It’s like having lots of little people inside your head, each with its own perspectives, feelings, memories, goals, and motivations.
All of these little people make up your internal community or family. Here are some examples of the different subpersonalities you may have inside your head:
The Criticized Child
The Loving Caretaker
The Angry Voice
The Manager
A part of you that wants to get things done.
A part of you that wants to procrastinate.
And, of course, there’s the Inner Critic. IFS holds that none of these voices wants to hurt you; they’re just acting from their own viewpoints and trying to further their own agendas. What you need to do is to treat them as a family by doing the following:
Speak to each part separately and try to figure out what it wants.
Try to work out a compromise between the different parts. You want to look for a way in which your different parts can work with each other more constructively.
In the book “Self-Therapy for Your Inner Critic: Transforming Self Criticism into Self-Confidence”, Jay Earley, PhD, and Bonnie Weiss, LCSW, explain that the inner critic is a protector. Among other things, it wants to keep you safe from failure and humiliation, and it figures that the best way to do this is by preventing you from trying anything new. One way it seeks to accomplish this is by judging and discouraging you.
Earley and Weiss indicate that once you realize that your inner critic is just trying to look out for you—albeit in a very misguided way—you can befriend your inner critic. Try negotiating with your inner critic on the best way to protect you. Once it feels that its concerns are being acknowledged, the inner critic is more likely to be reasonable.
In addition, there may be a part of you—most likely the Criticized Child—that feels hurt by the things that the inner critic says. Try befriending that part of you with love and compassion. See who else is hanging around and listen to what they have to say.
In a way you can become a therapist to your own inner family so that each voice—including your inner critic—begins to talk in a way that is more conducive to your happiness and to the achievement of your goals.

Here's the complete article http://daringtolivefully.com/silence-your-inner-critic but the best part of the piece is copied above.

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